ow here's what I have since found out about abortion:
- A coworker of mine had an abortion. First person I ever knew who had one. She spent some time after that in terrible grief. She would call the father - another coworker - constantly, in the break room, in front of everyone, sobbing into the phone, calling him names, screaming. As for myself, well I have to be honest and say I wanted to see how it would effect my views. We would still talk just like always - not about abortion, of course - and it was still pleasant, we were still nice to each other even though I was conflicted about my views on abortion - well, she probably still was, too. I would talk to her and I would think about how if abortion is the termination of life, was I talking to a killer? She was the same person as she was before. There wasn't anything different. No scarlet letter, no muderous rampages. She grieved, she moved on best she could, found a new man, married him, had his baby.
- When I was 23 my girlfriend, my first real love, and oh I fell for her hard, she was taken into an alley, beaten nearly to death and raped by four guys. Twice. If she had become pregnant because of that, I would have stood by her choice, whichever it would have been. Because I loved her.
- If my wife becomes pregnant with our offspriing I would express my hope that she would keep it. She would anyway. She wants to have a baby. But if she wouldn't, I can say that would be hurt. How she would feel and how it would effect our marriage, our relationship, is too hypothetical and I can not speculate. That's just my view. If anyone feels it's irrelevant, that I'm unenlightened, weak, hypocritical, full of shit (respectfully or otherwise), or ultimately displeased, they wouldn't be the first or last, so no harm done.
Re: can I jump in? It's a two-parter!
- A coworker of mine had an abortion. First person I ever knew who had one. She spent some time after that in terrible grief. She would call the father - another coworker - constantly, in the break room, in front of everyone, sobbing into the phone, calling him names, screaming. As for myself, well I have to be honest and say I wanted to see how it would effect my views. We would still talk just like always - not about abortion, of course - and it was still pleasant, we were still nice to each other even though I was conflicted about my views on abortion - well, she probably still was, too. I would talk to her and I would think about how if abortion is the termination of life, was I talking to a killer? She was the same person as she was before. There wasn't anything different. No scarlet letter, no muderous rampages. She grieved, she moved on best she could, found a new man, married him, had his baby.
- When I was 23 my girlfriend, my first real love, and oh I fell for her hard, she was taken into an alley, beaten nearly to death and raped by four guys. Twice. If she had become pregnant because of that, I would have stood by her choice, whichever it would have been. Because I loved her.
- If my wife becomes pregnant with our offspriing I would express my hope that she would keep it. She would anyway. She wants to have a baby. But if she wouldn't, I can say that would be hurt. How she would feel and how it would effect our marriage, our relationship, is too hypothetical and I can not speculate. That's just my view. If anyone feels it's irrelevant, that I'm unenlightened, weak, hypocritical, full of shit (respectfully or otherwise), or ultimately displeased, they wouldn't be the first or last, so no harm done.