>It sounds to me like you are making it about your feelings, and I >think for the people who are saying it, it is about reconciling theirs.
Yeeeeah... Is this bad?
Well, I think it can lead to defensiveness. People have to reconcile their actions with their own belief systems. I think it's asking too much to expect them to act as if their belief systems coincided with ours.
I disagree with some of the choices some people make in terms of other parts of their lives. In fact I am occasionally Really Squicked Out by choices that other people make. So I can't necessarily give full cheerleader Ra Ras, but I can say "I support you in your choice and hope it works out as well as possible for you."
I think that's as much as we can expect from people who are coming from a very different ethical basis. We have to give them the freedom to disagree with us without taking it personally.
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>think for the people who are saying it, it is about reconciling theirs.
Yeeeeah... Is this bad?
Well, I think it can lead to defensiveness. People have to reconcile their actions with their own belief systems. I think it's asking too much to expect them to act as if their belief systems coincided with ours.
I disagree with some of the choices some people make in terms of other parts of their lives. In fact I am occasionally Really Squicked Out by choices that other people make. So I can't necessarily give full cheerleader Ra Ras, but I can say "I support you in your choice and hope it works out as well as possible for you."
I think that's as much as we can expect from people who are coming from a very different ethical basis. We have to give them the freedom to disagree with us without taking it personally.
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