I think we're talking about the same thing, but we're approaching it from different angles.

I was referring to overt bad behaviour and you're referring to covert bad behaviour.

Well yeah, that was kind of the whole point of my post.

Everybody know that the internet in general tends to promote bad actors because it's always easier to have a big dick when there is a keyboard and several hundred miles of fibre optic between you and the person you just called a cuntbucket. That's been true since it was invented.

I was focusing on the specific kind of bad behaviour which I think is strongly supported in LJ more so than in other types of online forums. Specifically because of the way LJ is designed.

I called it drama because the blow-up in my journal was not just about the fact that someone left a stupid comment that pissed people off. Tensions were already high around the whole issue of parenthood and children due to conversations that were taking place elsewhere on LJ.

I guess I was unaware there was background there. I never even heard of wassername before that incident.

I really really wish there was a way to talk openly about the choice to be childfree and the pressures that come with that choice without pissing people off.

Maybe I'm lucky in that I've never found that to be a problem.