musing about VD

[the_siobhan]

I had this conversation with the_axel about Valentine's Day. Because I really don't do Valentine's Day at all. I don't care if other people do it and like it, I'm happy if something makes my friends happy. But it just doesn't interest me.

When I lived with the wife-beater, he was huge on the romantic gestures. Valentine's Day, Christmas, birthdays, Flag Day, the first full moon after the third Thursday of every second month - all occasions for flowers, useless gifts[1] and gawdaful off-key serenades in the middle of the damn street.[2]

It's not that I particularily associate Hallmark Day with the wife-beather. It's just that the irony of receiving all these romantic gestures from somebody who treated me like a punching bag the rest of the time wasn't totally lost on me.

So now I just... don't care.

[1]A useful gift would have been food.
[2]I coulda' died.

Comments

[jendurrfukt.livejournal.com]

that's reason number two why i found getting flowers and candy an unromantic gesture yesterday. the woman who gave them to me slapped the shit out of me when she realized she wasn't getting in my pants on sunday.

[the-siobhan.livejournal.com]

You're fucking kidding.

That's seriously fucked up.

[jendurrfukt.livejournal.com]

yea, it is. if her kids weren't in the room, and i didn't keep a cool head i would have killed her. not smart to hit a woman who's had enough of the abusive bullshit to last 3 lifetimes and who's holding a carving knife.

cheers to new beginnings, eh?

[spikella.livejournal.com]

the irony is not lost on me either

hallmark days suck

[spikella.livejournal.com]

and i'm very glad you didn't die from the serenades
:)

[the-siobhan.livejournal.com]

I was 17! I was mortified!

[(Anonymous)]

Glad you're ok!

Never got it myself. I prefer love gestures that are random, like he (or she) was just thinking about me. I really hate it when someone only gives gifts after a fight or something. Gifts on holidays are just something your expected to feel obligated to do, making it less special than it's supposed to be. I agree, useful gifts kick ass!

Jenn*

[the-siobhan.livejournal.com]

I know people who totally get into it as an excuse to spoil their loved one(s) and that's cool too. I just don't fall into that category.

[grimjim.livejournal.com]

Seems to me that extravagant gestures are sometimes more a way of impressing bystanders than the ostensible object of alleged affection.

[digital-space.livejournal.com]

When you put "musings about VD" the first thing that came my mind was "venereal disease".

[the-siobhan.livejournal.com]

That was not entirely unintentional. :-)

[ladyclayton.livejournal.com]

This is precisely why I do not like Valentines Day.

[unagothae.livejournal.com]

Within a healthy context, holidays can be an excuse for an extra bit of fun and warm fuzzies. I'm enjoying religious observances this year because ritual is a nice break from the mundane.

I didn't need yesterday to be a holiday in order to fully enjoy a milestone in my mental health. However, since it was a holiday, I got to celebrate with a party complete with pretty place setting and delicious food (I swear I'm only staying in church for the food ;)

I've had a huge hate-on for holidays for many years. Just wanted to offer a slightly different perspective because it's one I never considered during those year, so now it seems interesting.

Or maybe I'm just feeling fluffy because I just finished crocheting a baby pink scarf with the softest yarn I've ever come across. That MUST be it ;)

[unagothae.livejournal.com]

With the counterpoint out of the way, I've just got to say that nothing sucks ass quite the way that obscenely romantic gestures from raging assholes do. Chris won me over with thoughtful gestures, but I grew to hate them because of his cruelty.

I thank all that is good and pure in the universe that Chris was never actually my boyfriend and that I said no to him every time he begged me to let him move in with me. I can only imagine what you went through, but I empathize.

So glad we're both in better places now :)

[siani-hedgehog.livejournal.com]

what is it with the assholes and the huge romantic gestures?? the guy who used to beat my friend in HS was always the king of the romantic gestures, too. asshole.