I like your post, it teases out some of the things I'm mulling over.
It seems to me (if I am reading it correctly) that your posts says that you owe your friends consistancy, to be the person you are - somebody who tells them the truth, has an available shoulder, etc. - because those things are the reasons they became your friends in the first place.
Do you think having expectations the way you describe it is the same as being "owed" something?
I think even the people who say that friends don't "owe" each other things still know that their friends will be there for them.
I should put a dictionary at the beginning of posts like this so we can all start at the same point. (Of course then I would get 40+ posts debating the definitions.)
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Date: 2005-11-25 11:12 am (UTC)It seems to me (if I am reading it correctly) that your posts says that you owe your friends consistancy, to be the person you are - somebody who tells them the truth, has an available shoulder, etc. - because those things are the reasons they became your friends in the first place.
Do you think having expectations the way you describe it is the same as being "owed" something?
I think even the people who say that friends don't "owe" each other things still know that their friends will be there for them.
I should put a dictionary at the beginning of posts like this so we can all start at the same point. (Of course then I would get 40+ posts debating the definitions.)