I'm a big believer that all people tend to follow patterns and that I can do a lot to smooth my own interactions with them if I am aware of those patterns. Every human being on the planet has flaws - if I know which ones person X has, and whether or not I can tolerate or avoid them, then I know whether or not X and I can be friends.
Not that people can't reinvent themselves - I've seen it. Hell, I've done it. But it's work and it takes time, and if it's over little stuff most people aren't willing to make the investment.
And also not to say that I don't get tripped up. I have let myself ignore Big Glowing Fucking Warning Signs in the past, but man do I get taught a life lesson when I do.
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Date: 2006-11-19 12:25 am (UTC)I'm a big believer that all people tend to follow patterns and that I can do a lot to smooth my own interactions with them if I am aware of those patterns. Every human being on the planet has flaws - if I know which ones person X has, and whether or not I can tolerate or avoid them, then I know whether or not X and I can be friends.
Not that people can't reinvent themselves - I've seen it. Hell, I've done it. But it's work and it takes time, and if it's over little stuff most people aren't willing to make the investment.
And also not to say that I don't get tripped up. I have let myself ignore Big Glowing Fucking Warning Signs in the past, but man do I get taught a life lesson when I do.