adoptive parents are supposed to understand those risks.
Gosh, i hate to speak up, but...as an adoptive mom, myself, i have to throw in my own experience.
i could not stand to have my daughter placed with me, and then have her ripped away. As it was, she recognized me as her mom very early in the adoption process and it was heartwrenching to have to hand her back to her caregiver at the end of our visits. Kinder Goth screamed in rage and clung to me. She knew i was her mom and that was that.
A child is not a commodity. Unfortunately, in the US kids are treated that way. Parental rights are more important than the child's rights. And i feel that it's wrong.
What's important is what is in the child's best interest. Having the money to adopt does not make you the best parent and neither does the ability to procreate.
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Date: 2007-01-05 12:14 am (UTC)Gosh, i hate to speak up, but...as an adoptive mom, myself, i have to throw in my own experience.
i could not stand to have my daughter placed with me, and then have her ripped away. As it was, she recognized me as her mom very early in the adoption process and it was heartwrenching to have to hand her back to her caregiver at the end of our visits. Kinder Goth screamed in rage and clung to me. She knew i was her mom and that was that.
A child is not a commodity. Unfortunately, in the US kids are treated that way. Parental rights are more important than the child's rights. And i feel that it's wrong.
What's important is what is in the child's best interest. Having the money to adopt does not make you the best parent and neither does the ability to procreate.