(There were a few. Apparently I am 5'3" and love baseball.)
*Snork* That's priceless. Do you also vote Conservative and live in the burbs?
Or if she recorded that way knowing that the baby would one day grow up and want to read about how she got here.
This makes sense. It's obvious from reading your next entry that the birth father was anything but cooperative, but counsellor may have omitted much of that precisely because of the reasons you mentioned above. She may have thought that it would not benefit your daughter to read that her birth father was violent and abusive. Searching for her birth parents is probably nerve wracking for her as it is.
And what the hell am I going to tell her about that? About her father?
Only as much as she asks? She may not want to know as many details about him as you're afraid of her asking. (Did that make any sense?) Maybe a simple "We were young and things didn't work out. I haven't seen him in years." will suffice. Your daughter is at an age where she's probably had a couple of relationships already and knows about shit just not working out sometimes. It may be you that she really wants to know about, and the hard conversation you're anticipating may not happen for some time. After all, you and she have 20-odd years to catch up on. :)
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Date: 2003-06-15 08:34 am (UTC)*Snork* That's priceless. Do you also vote Conservative and live in the burbs?
Or if she recorded that way knowing that the baby would one day grow up and want to read about how she got here.
This makes sense. It's obvious from reading your next entry that the birth father was anything but cooperative, but counsellor may have omitted much of that precisely because of the reasons you mentioned above. She may have thought that it would not benefit your daughter to read that her birth father was violent and abusive. Searching for her birth parents is probably nerve wracking for her as it is.
And what the hell am I going to tell her about that? About her father?
Only as much as she asks? She may not want to know as many details about him as you're afraid of her asking. (Did that make any sense?) Maybe a simple "We were young and things didn't work out. I haven't seen him in years." will suffice. Your daughter is at an age where she's probably had a couple of relationships already and knows about shit just not working out sometimes. It may be you that she really wants to know about, and the hard conversation you're anticipating may not happen for some time. After all, you and she have 20-odd years to catch up on. :)