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the_siobhanThe lovely and talented bcholmes took me to see Hanna Gadsby perform in our town in August. I've been mulling it over ever since.
Gadsby is famous for openly mining their personal traumas and tragedies for their comedy. What fuelled this show in particular was grief at the death of their father, and rage at the bureaucracy that denied him dignity in his last days of his life. They also talked about their ambivalence at the wealth that has come along with commercial success. Wealth has become part of being a celebrity because we value celebrities. In a way that we do not value, say, elderly people.
So. Somewhat topical.
Also funny as fuck. I am fascinated by their ability to talk about things that hurt and make you howl with laughter while they are doing it. I mean, there was also an extended bit about fleshlights, which probably helped. But still.
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I had a long discussion with my sister yesterday after I told her that I would go to her thanksgiving gathering, but I would be masking and not eating with the rest of the family because they take zero precautions. I tried to explain it by saying the chances of infection might be low, but even low odds aren't worth it if the impact is really fucking bad. I don't think she got it.
And I wonder if that's because she wasn't here when I was trying to navigate getting care for the Old Man and so she didn't see just how fucking awful it is out there. And that was with some money tucked away, it would have been considerably worse if he had been poor.
I always find these conflicts so incredibly stressful. Mostly I just wish I didn't have to do it over and over and over and over again.
bcholmes took me to see Hanna Gadsby perform in our town in August. I've been mulling it over ever since.
Gadsby is famous for openly mining their personal traumas and tragedies for their comedy. What fuelled this show in particular was grief at the death of their father, and rage at the bureaucracy that denied him dignity in his last days of his life. They also talked about their ambivalence at the wealth that has come along with commercial success. Wealth has become part of being a celebrity because we value celebrities. In a way that we do not value, say, elderly people.
So. Somewhat topical.
Also funny as fuck. I am fascinated by their ability to talk about things that hurt and make you howl with laughter while they are doing it. I mean, there was also an extended bit about fleshlights, which probably helped. But still.
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I had a long discussion with my sister yesterday after I told her that I would go to her thanksgiving gathering, but I would be masking and not eating with the rest of the family because they take zero precautions. I tried to explain it by saying the chances of infection might be low, but even low odds aren't worth it if the impact is really fucking bad. I don't think she got it.
And I wonder if that's because she wasn't here when I was trying to navigate getting care for the Old Man and so she didn't see just how fucking awful it is out there. And that was with some money tucked away, it would have been considerably worse if he had been poor.
I always find these conflicts so incredibly stressful. Mostly I just wish I didn't have to do it over and over and over and over again.
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Date: 2024-10-17 04:36 am (UTC)^^^ This. I think people are completely oblivious. When I try to explain that you can't travel with cancer because a) a single bout with a virus could kill you and b) your short- or long-term disability insurance will drop you if you leave your province or state, they seem genuinely surprised.