that popping sound is the 200 W bulb over my head

[the_siobhan]

Mental note to self:

Sometimes when you are mad at people, it's not necessarily because you're the one with a problem.

Sometimes it's because people really are being assholes.

Comments

[inulro.livejournal.com]

So true. But isn't it amazing how we're all programmed to think that we are the one with the problem.

[eveofdstruction.livejournal.com]

I get caught in the "nice" crap that says that even if they are being an asshole, being mad at them STILL means I have a problem. FUCK that. It means I'm mad.

[kest]

You can't change other people. You can only change yourself. Sometimes by taking a step back and saying 'fuck you!'

[eciklb.livejournal.com]

Amen.

[redbird]

Connected to which: if you are mad at everybody, or everybody in a place or situation, it's a good time to step back. That much anger might mean that you do, in fact, need to calm down, go lift weights or eat protein or sleep or such; it might also mean that those people are part of, or the cause of, a bad situation and you need to get out.

Back away first, then figure out whether the problem is with you, the situation, or both. Either way, the backing away will help.

[firecat]

Oh yeah. That perspective helps a lot.

[mpeace.livejournal.com]

Agreed.

[disastrid.livejournal.com]

holla.